tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5679817855502035398.post615815238860171339..comments2010-11-03T18:08:12.254-07:00Comments on Our Little Family: Lost in the Sea of ParentingMomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02394596628256648799noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5679817855502035398.post-13169980167434420762009-07-31T23:44:26.599-07:002009-07-31T23:44:26.599-07:00At Aiden's age what I focused most on was word...At Aiden's age what I focused most on was words. He's struggling with how to show you his frustration. I calmly got to their level, gave them the words, or expressed some understanding, and then gave them a consequence. The consequence is most effective if it's relative to the bad behavior. If they throw a toy, the lose the toy for a specified amount of time. If they write on the wall, they have to clean it off. Time outs are for direct disobedience. "Love and Logic" is a great book and a great theory that we've really enjoyed. Good luck!!Domrese Family Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14702462423169512786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5679817855502035398.post-86974490289808911792009-07-30T08:27:19.767-07:002009-07-30T08:27:19.767-07:00I've never had to deal with my babies throwing...I've never had to deal with my babies throwing things in anger but I have had to deal with things that I never thought I would deal with. Like bitting. My philosophy on spanking is in two folds. I spank if the kids have done something in outright defiance or if they are doing something that could be dnagerous to themselves or to someone else. I believe the most important spanking ages are 1 - 4 where you have to communicate to them that they need to stop and if they don't there will be a consiquence. At this age there is no reasoning since they're not at that intelligence level. I highly believe kids do not understand timeout the way they understand spanking. If the kids are fighting over toys, whinning or if it's their first offence I will send them to time out. Personally I would consider throwing toys to fit into the category of dangerous to someone else and I would spank my kids for that. It could just be a slap on his hand and a firm "NO" and in a couple days I'd think he would stop throwing. <br /> Aidan is such a nice little guy and you're are a great mom! Good luck with whatever you find works! :)Kaitlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14591576350422074998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5679817855502035398.post-13547628321218624992009-07-29T23:00:41.378-07:002009-07-29T23:00:41.378-07:00This parenting gig is hard! No doubt about it. I...This parenting gig is hard! No doubt about it. I've learned that the parent I thought I'd be is definitely not going to be the parent I am. Things change when you have kids and you're really having to make the decisions. I thought I was beyond ready to become a Mom. Oldest of 5, oldest cousin on both sides, babysitter to all cousins and neighbors, I even kind of nanny'd for a while. Nothing could have prepared me for what it would be like to have Preston! I love him so much more than any of the other kids and he depends on me so much more than any of them did either. <br /><br />We also had a hard time with punishments. I am a firm non-believer in spanking, so that left me with timeouts. And even with those it took me a while to figure out what worked best for us. Preston has to be seperated from me in order to fully understand he's in trouble. So he takes his timeouts in a different room than I am in. Try a couple different things and see what works best for you guys. Aidan is definitely old enough for timeouts you just have to discover what works best. Good luck!Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10231049000884470572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5679817855502035398.post-54706997682088200002009-07-29T19:28:53.306-07:002009-07-29T19:28:53.306-07:00First off you are not alone and all of this is com...First off you are not alone and all of this is completely normal! Second you need to do what works for you and your family. It may not be what others think is right but it works for you and that's what matters. Third be consistent both you and Anthony need to be in this together! It will work just don't let things slide that you want to correct. Your on the right track doing great!The 4 Martellshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03022636843205502971noreply@blogger.com